人生之課


沈昕很久前在回應中提起「All I Really Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten」by Robert Fulghum時,我就很想跟大家分享這本書和它那篇非常有名、在美國可以買到大海報的可愛文章。

十二月中,Abby從美國回新加坡 ,整理東西時,我從自己一堆待寫成稿的草記中抽出那篇早已印出的短文──這本書的信念代表作。我跟Abby說,請她有空幫我錄個音吧!

28號,Abby從台北飛回費城。隔兩天,我收到她的錄音檔,信中說她在鬧時差,半夜睡不著,想起答應要幫我錄的音。

 

 

謝謝Abby,雖然用電腦的麥克風直接收錄,雜音比較大,但是謝謝妳半夜還記得媽媽的請託。

All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.
These are the things I learned:

•Share everything.
•Play fair.
•Don’t hit people.
•Put things back where you found them.
•Clean up your own mess.
•Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
•Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
•Wash your hands before you eat.
•Flush.
•Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
•Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
•Take a nap every afternoon.
•When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
•Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
•Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.
•And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.

Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all – the whole world – had cookies and milk at about 3 o’clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

 

別小覷了幼稚園

我們做人處世所真正需要的知識,大部份在幼稚園裏已經學到。

人生在世應該怎樣生活、應該做些什麼以及怎麼為人,我在這方面所需要的知識,大部份是在上幼稚園時學到的。智慧並不存在於大學研究所的象牙之頂,而是在幼稚園的沙池裡。

 

我在幼稚園學到東西是:

要和別人分享一切。

事事要公平。

不可以欺負人。

東西用完要放回原處。

自己弄亂的東西要自己整理。

不是自己的東西不要據為己有。

冒犯了別人要說對不起。

吃東西前要洗手。

生活要平衡,每天都要學一點新知識和練一練動腦筋,畫畫圖、唱唱歌、跳跳舞、玩玩遊戲,也要工作一番。

下午要小睡休息。出門時小心車輛。最好大家手牽手聯在一起。要知道世界是奇妙的。想想杯子裡的小種子,它會生根出芽,然後長成一株植物。雖然沒有誰真正知道原因,但我們大家也一樣生根成長。

金魚、田鼠、小白鼠,和甚至杯子裡的種子──全都遲早會死。我們自己也不例外。

然後要把妳最早學會的一個字記住:「看」。

你需要的一切知識,都在某處可以看到。己所不欲勿施於人的處世準則、親人惜物的愛心、基本的衛生常識、環境生態和政治以及健全的生活之道,盡在其中。

試想想,如果每天到了下午三點鐘我們就人人都有點心和牛奶吃,吃完就躺下來蓋上毛毯睡個午覺,世界會多美好啊!或者,如果我們的國家和別人的國家都訂有基本的政策;把東西放回原來的地方,自己整理自己弄亂的東西,那麼,世界將會多美麗 啊。

還有,不論你是什麼年紀,你走到外面的世界,最好還是跟別人手牽手緊靠在一起。